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Jan 202015
 

 

This article is reblogged from my previously published article on MindBodyGreen. Click here to read more of my articles from the site.

After completely healing myself of a 10 year struggle with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (or CFS as it’s more commonly known), I’ve realised recently that I’m still holding on to a number of excuses that I told myself when I was at my most sick in order to protect myself and my health. Often these excuses were completely valid and justified, but as I started to recover, I noticed that many of them started to get stronger. Now, having been in the best health of my life for the last 4 years, one of the biggest daily struggles I face is letting go of the excuses that were imbedded in my experience during those dark years.

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The phrases you’re about to read have probably entered your vocabulary at some point. The excuses you tell yourself might not sound exactly like these word-for-word, but underneath it all, the energy and feeling behind them is exactly the same. The crux if it all is whether you choose to live your life by them or not, and I’m sad to say that they’ve influenced a lot of my decisions over the years.

In many ways, all the phrases below are linked- once you start diving into one, the others will probably come up for you too. The very first step, however, is to catch yourself just after you say or think these sentences. Is it your voice or someone else’s? When are you saying it? How do you feel as you’re saying it? Meditating on these simple questions will help you step into the space of this fear, rather than pushing it away again.

5 Phrases Stopping You From Living Your Best Life

1) “I’m not the type of person who would…”

Maybe you are just that person. Where have you developed boundaries and walls for yourself? Is there someone in your life or an event that has pushed and narrowed your boundaries and sense of self?

This phrase also presents us with the opportunity to examine whether or not we are necessarily judging others. Is this phrase coming from the best place, or is our perception of the situation or another person rubbing up against our personal boundaries?

2) “I could never…”

In a similar way to point number 1, in many ways you are limiting yourself from possibilities. Exploring the ‘what ifs’ in life is a magical experience, but don’t cut yourself off at the source. If you’re terrified of heights, then saying, “I could never bungee jump” is completely justifiable, but make sure your head and your heart are on the same page.

3) “It’ll never happen.” (and any variation along the same lines)

A certain degree of realism is sometimes necessary as we go through life, but cutting yourself off before you’ve even tried means you’ll stay frustrated and in many cases, stuck. Isn’t it better to have a go than never know?

This is one of the phrases that I still struggle with personally. Often, I think myself out of an idea or situation before I’ve ever tried to do anything about it, often within the first few minutes of it landing in my head! As embarrassing as this is, this is one of my patterns, and I’m grateful for every opportunity I have to work on it

4) “Oh well, never mind…”

If you have tried everything and there’s no way around the situation, there is great strength in accepting the present moment. However, if you’ve let your dream or idea float past you like a cloud without even meditating on the possibility of it, then maybe it’s time your reversed the phrase: “mind- never”.

5) “I don’t have time.”

This is another one that I seem to catch myself saying a lot, particularly when it comes to exercise. It’s a bit of a vicious circle- you want to get healthy or change-up your exercise routine, but this one little phrase can always be used as an excuse. We’re all busy, but we have to ask ourselves where our priorities lie. Are you really as busy as you think you are, or are you using this as an excuse to stay small?

Timetabling activities, even if it’s just once a week, and telling others about your commitment can help you to stay on course and break your habit. Make the decision to keep yourself accountable for your actions.

I’d love to hear your comments below- have you been using any of these phrases as excuses in your life?

Love, Katie    xxx

  2 Responses to “5 Phrases Stopping You From Living Your Best Life”

  1. Katie, how did you heal yourself, what do you think was the most helpful. My daughter is losing hope.

    • Cheryl, I know you probably don’t want to hear this, but it was a real combination of lots of things. I think accepting it is a huge step towards healing. You can read more here.

      Sending you and your daughter lots of love, xx

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