It’s ok to just go to yoga because you want to move your body, not because you’re looking for spiritual ‘ah-ha’s.
It’s ok to enjoy your job (yes, really) and not be swept up in the need to change it.
It’s ok to be like your parents.
It’s ok to procrastinate sometimes. Maybe you’re not really up for the end result after all.
It’s ok to want to learn more, and all at once.
It’s ok to fail (that’s how you learn).
It’s ok to go for the greasy option from time-to-time. Just promise me you’ll enjoy it.
It’s ok to just want to flop on the couch all day if your body’s tired and calling for it.
It’s ok to just work for the money, just for a little while (Be gentle with that light at the end of the tunnel).
It’s ok to try something once and not go back to it.
It’s ok to want to read fiction amidst the quest for spiritual enlightenment and greater meaning. Your brain needs to ruminate, breath and imagine.
It’s ok (and safe) to say ‘no’.
It’s ok to have unending to-do lists and get lost in reveries.
It’s ok to not know what your dreams are. Let them chase you.
It’s ok to speak your mind gracefully and with elegance.
It’s ok to sway.
It’s ok to feel stuck, petrified, made of concrete- all in one hour, one minute, one second.
It’s ok to go against the grain, just do it wilfully. We have eyes in the front of our heads to keep us looking forwards, not back.
It’s ok to switch off from the internet for a while.
It’s ok to keep things simple (My word of 2014, my only resolution for this year. Keeping things simple, you see?)
It’s ok to stand up for yourself (sometimes, this muscle grows weak).
It’s ok to flop.
It’s ok to feel like you’ve done a damn good job.
It’s ok to feel proud. Puff that chest out. Own it.
It’s ok to surrender (this is not the same thing as giving up).
It’s ok to go for the cheap option sometimes.
It’s ok to cry for no reason. Let it all fall out of you.
It’s ok to go out for walk because the walls feel as if they’re closing in on you.
It’s ok to admire. Be in awe and wonder. Savour it.
It’s ok to dance, sing, ponder and sigh.
It’s ok to connect.
You’re ok my dear….you’re ok.
Love, Katie xxx
By November 2012 thought I had just about conquered my CFS, however it came back with a vengeance after Xmas. When I look back at what I did in December it made sense this would happen. Lesson learnt for 2014 ! It is to say no and not to do what you used to do or be who you used to be! Be the new you, although with limitations, still ok!
I love this, Katie. I found it the hardest to say not and learning that it is ok not to be ok xx
*NO See, even typing it is hard!!
Ha ha Rachel! Thank you my lovely! xx
This is exactly what I needed, thank you lovely.
Feeling weak and frustrated with a nasty infection, having to take antibiotics and other medication because I haven’t been able to shake it, and feel like I’m nowhere near getting better. Even worse, the doc I saw suspects I may have glandular again.
Reading this felt like a gentle hug across the distance, and I could hear the voice in my ear, saying ‘Shhh… it’s ok.’
Thank you Samantha- I really hope you’re feeling better soon my lovely. Be gentle with yourself- xx
This is a much needed post right now. I feel like my life is out of control and I want change but don’t know how to proceed. I just want things to be different. It is helpful to reframe things a bit and accept that I may not be where I want to be but that doesn’t mean my whole life is “wrong” (which is how I’ve been feeling). I especially like “It’s okay to sway.” Somehow that speaks to something deep in me.
Lots of love my darling- thinking of you, I know how difficult it can be. Inviting change is a huge jump and it’s not as easy as lots of people say it is. Let yourself sway my dear- xxx
Thank you Katie I have found a lot of coping better with CFS is about acceptance and not fighting it the whole time and that the way I’m dealing with it all is indeed ok
Lots of love, Julia- xx