It’s all too easy to think that because we’ve been ill for a while that we know pain and suffering more than the ‘average’ person.
We have to remember not to feed our pain to our egos. People go through terrible things every day and none of them necessarily involve chronic illness.
Comparing your pain to other people’s is a bit of a trap, which will probably chew you up and spit you out. We all feel the need to share our stories (they help us contextualise things and stay sane), but don’t feel more entitled to your pain and how terrible your story is just because you’ve been in a situation for a little way.
Don’t be the victim in your own story.
Pain is pain.
We feel it on different levels and one type of pain does not necessarily cancel out another type. Your pain is neither better nor worse than mine. It’s different because, individually, we are different people. My pain is not your pain, and your pain isn’t mine. People with CFS might experience pain and hardship, but we can’t truly compare our situations. It doesn’t really serve us anyway, except in reaching out in that gorgeous “You’re not alone” kind of way.
This illness is not yours to keep, just as the pain isn’t yours to keep either. Contextualising and quantifying it will only bring it closer to you in the long run, making it difficult to detach from. The pain then becomes firther ingrained in your story and seeps into every aspect of your life
Your pain and the situation you’re in are neither better nor worse than anyone else’s. Experience is individual.
Love and freedom,