One of the main things I speak to my coaching clients about is noticing when their lives reach a bump in the road. I don’t mean the huge, life-changing experiences that can either make us or rip us to shreds- I’m talking about the roads and paths we take every day. You’re ticking along and everything’s ok until you wake up one morning with a fuzzy head, or you’re so achy that you have to spend the day in bed.
Everyone has a different ‘slow it down, man’ symptom or set of symptoms- mine is a sore throat and slightly swollen glands. If I wake up with these symptoms, I know that something I did or the way I reacted to something the day before was completely out-of-whack and out-of-line with that loving, easy side of me that my soul loves so much.
This morning was one of those days. As you may have noticed, I haven’t been posting on the blog as much as I would’ve liked recently. My work schedule has completely changed, meaning a big change in my body clock and priorities. Unfortunately, this is all still quite new and I haven’t found a way of nailing my self-care practices in between running around, teaching and paperwork. Yesterday, I felt like it was all too much. I couldn’t get to sleep as quickly as I would normally and worried into the night about lots of tiny insignificant things that in the grand scheme of life don’t really matter too much. I was completely out of alignment with my true self, so it’s no wonder I woke up this morning feeling less than wonderful.
So, where had I been neglecting myself? I hadn’t meditated properly in a few days (I only managed 5 minutes instead of my usually 25-30, telling myself that I had too much to do) and my yoga practice has not been as regular as I would’ve liked. In times of stress, my usual non-negotiables fly out the window, even though I know my spirit and body need them to thrive and live.
Spotting Your Relapse Triggers
Spotting your own personal triggers can guide you to prioritise yourself even more in times of stress of worry. As many of you know from reading my story and from your own experiences, ignoring your these warning signs and ploughing on anyway can often lead to long period of illness, anxiety or, in my case, CFS/ME.
Have a look at this list and see if you recognise any of these as your own physical ‘warning signs’-
- muscle spasms/aches
- sore throat
- heart palpitations
- feeling like you’re breathing too quickly
- swollen glands
- dry or dull skin
- just feeling ‘meh’
Now look at these emotions or circumstances and see if any of your physical symptoms tie-in with them:
- not feeling good enough, so why bother?
- feeling disappointed in yourself or someone else
- trying to hold on to a situation when you should just let go
- trying to control the outcome of too many things at once
- feeling silent anger or resentment that’s been building gradually
- rushing around to please others and forgetting about yourself
- not sticking to your guns and going with what others expect from you
- feeling like a fraud because things are going too well (trust me, this exists!)
- fear of any kind
In my experience, lots of niggling physical symptoms point to something else, some other area of your life which isn’t balanced. I don’t mean to say that people can’t get sick with the flu or a stomach bug- I’m talking about those sneaky ‘something’s not quite right’ symptoms. Take a step back, and ask yourself it there’s something else at play here. Get honest.
I’d love to hear your comments below- what are your ‘slow down’ warning signs and what are they telling you about your emotions?
Love and ease,