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Feb 262015
 

 

I’m sure that if I told you you were courageous right now, you’d probably tell me I was mad. But, you’d probably say something, then slowly turn back towards me, curious as to why I’d given you that now oh-so unfamiliar label. How can someone who feels so weak and helpless demonstrate outrageous courage and strength? How can strength and courage in CFS possibly go together? How can you, when you’ve been ill for so long, even begin to get your head around the fact that you’ve actually come a lot further than you realise and that you can cope with more than you know?

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You’re stronger than you know because….

  • ultimately, you kinda have to be- you’ve got no choice.
  • you take comments like this and this, and just roll with it. It might be unpleasant, but you’re as gracious as always. As Wayne Dyer once said, “What other people think of me is none of my business.”
  • you are bearing such a huge physical and emotional burden right now. If other people knew how much you had to endure, they’d be in awe of you. However, even the warrior needs a break every now and then, and it’s always ok to cry.
  • in the midst of all this s#@* going on around you, you know deep down that you are still you. You are still here. Take strength and comfort from that, even if brain fog tells you otherwise.
  • finding the means to carry on with all of this ‘not-knowing’ will set you up great things in your big, bright future and you’ll be better for it.

You’re more courageous than you know because…

  • you’re hunting around on websites like this for answers and things that might help you heal. If you were scared of your illness, you wouldn’t be here.
  • you’re open to take your healing into your own hands.
  • you’re willing to try new things, even if this pushes you massively out of your comfort zone and you’re incredibly scared that anything you try’ll make you worse.
  • you’re willing to look at the root causes of your illness, even a tiny bit at a time. It’s unpleasant and you don’t like asking yourself these questions, but you might just discover something you didn’t know about yourself.
  • you know that this innate courage inside you is the one thing that’s going to carry you through the darkness and into your healing. Love it, look after it and remember it when the road gets bumpy. Only you can really heal you.

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Trust me my darling, you are stronger and more courageous than you think you are. You put up with so much rubbish day in, day out for days, weeks, month and years at a time, all the while questioning who you are, your self worth, your relationships, your career, your body, your past and your future.

Just know in the here and now, that I admire you for your courage, determination and strength. No-one ever told me this while I was ill, so I’m telling you now.

I’ve got your back. I know how hard it is. Everyone reading this knows how hard it is. Let it out….let it out….and trust your courage.

Remember, as Paulo Coelho once said, “An act of courage is always an act of love.”

Love and courage,

Katie     xxx

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  10 Responses to “Strength and Courage in CFS”

  1. A spot on, fantastic piece. Wonderfully said! Thank you! It’s so brilliant to be able to read the writings of someone who has been there and gets it with all the little but sometimes pretty hard things we go through which aren’t often recognised or acknowledged by others of even ourselves! It is really pretty amazing and so great to remember, yep those are things we made it through, it wasn’t nothing and if i did that I can do more and heal the best I can – we are doing well and being courages. Thank you for the reminder, it’s very much appreciated! x

  2. I just finished reading this and I just started crying and crying. I never had someone tell me I’m courageous, although I felt I must be to even still be on this earth after dealing with this illness. Thank you so much for validating this for me. It means more to me than you could ever know. I wish people could really know. There are a few in my life that truely know what I go trough and how difficult it is every day. I’m so tired of trying to explain myself to people. I’ve given up on that. I’ve just come to accept that most people won’t understand and I’m not angry with them anymore for that because how can I expect them to understand something I don’t even understand! I’ve finally found inner peace with that and don’t take it personally anymore. Thanks again. I will keep reading your posts. They are very inspirational!

    • Joanne, I got so choked up reading your reply- thank you so, so much my darling. You are a lot stronger than you know, than you could ever imagine- just that inner knowing will immediately strengthen you and bring you inner peace. Even if other people don’t validate your strength, just knowing you are strong and courageous will really help you to see your healing in a different way.

      Thank you so much for reading my blog, Joanne! Keep smiling! xx

  3. A couple of people have said how brave I am, and I’ve said “thank you, but I don’t see myself as brave or courageous, because I don’t feel I have any choice about how I live with this.” They haven’t argued, but I think about it from time to time.
    I think some at least of the people who don’t understand are in fact protecting themselves from memories or awarenesses that they’ve hidden away deep inside and don’t want to face. And some of them will face them, and others won’t – I’m aware of what one person has hidden away and it is scary, no question. The more of us who have this condition (or similar), the more aware we’ll all be, and our examples can help the others. So I keep on going… with massive help, Katie, from people like you! So, blessings and massive hugs to you!

  4. You never cease to amaze me! With your eloquence and insight into this illness..it’s soo nice hearing all that you have to say about it, and this was extremely helpful. I believe I may be going through the recovery phase, but am being so much harder on myself, bcos I’m not as used to being so slow and the days/weeks I have feeling unwell and not so good, I think I’m just lazy and I hate it. So this post really helped X

    • So pleased it resonated with you my love. Remember to tune into your body regularly and dial back your activities by half- for example, if you want to walk to the shop, maybe try walking half way, then turning back. Then try and go a little further the next day. Pretty soon your body will start to trust that you know what you’re doing! Your brain might try and tell you you can’t do it, but you should almost expect this.

      Slow and steady wins the race. Frustrating, I know, but it’s an incredible philosophy with CFS! xx

  5. Now if only I could get my own brain to stop telling me I am lazy and it’s all in my head! That for me is far more challenging than others

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