Jan 202015

That person on the bus that irritates you for no apparent reason. What can you learn from him?

The little girl that has boundless amounts of energy and never stops asking questions. What can you learn from her?

The grumpy guy at work who always seems to be sitting under a cloud. What can you learn from him?

The elderly couple at the end of your road who always link arms and walk arm-in-arm together. What can you learn from them?

Screaming, shouting and hurling insults at your other half. What can you learn from that?

Sitting in quiet contemplation, being alone and only listening to your inner voice. What can you learn from that?

What can you learn from yourself? What can others learn from you? What do you want others to learn from you?

We are all one. We are impatient, we are accountable, we are faithful, we are loving, we are volatile, we are boundless, we are empathy. We are one. We share and reflect the character traits of everyone we meet.

He is your brother. She is your sister.

We are vessels for emotion- energy in motion.

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Taken from Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor

Be patient with others today. How would you like to be treated? Think of this going forward in the way you treat others.

We are one.


Taken from here

Love and unity,


Jan 202015

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Taken from here with gratitude

Don’t look back- you’ve been there done that. It’s boring and unadventurous.

They say that life’s a journey. How can you journey if you’re not moving forward? Standing still gains perspective, but the journey gains inspiration.

Forgive your past wrongs, but also love them unconditionally. They form part of your unique life experience and no-one is a unique and incredible as you. Be grateful.

You’re not going backwards, so don’t look that way.

We have this moment. That’s it. This moment to live in, breathe in, love in. Don’t miss it. Live in it, swim in it, glory in it. It’s yours. It’s ours. Not yesterday, but today.

Love your past.

Love the Now.

Love and presence,

Katie   xxx

Nov 182014

Be completely honest with yourself. Forget about CFS for a moment (really!) and just concentrate on you.

What are those big, completely bonkers, unbelievably insane, but juicy goals you have for yourself? (Notice I’m using ‘have’, not ‘had’)


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Do you think that it’s all over because you’re ill? Have you given up on it? If so, why? (Please don’t say, “Because I’ve got CFS”!) Are you letting your illness pull you down?

You rule CFS, CFS does not rule you.

You know this and you’ve known it since the first day you were diagnosed.

What if your big dream and visualising it is the thing that helps you recover? Is it still looking so terrible? Can you see it in your mind’s eye and imagine yourself in that image?

Dream big, dream bold. Be brave, be bold. Be strong, outrageous, honest, loving and brimming full to enthusiasm.

Your dream is here- I can see it. Everyone around you can see it…and it’s yours. 

…But where are you? What’s stopping you?

Step up and take the route to healing by loving your illness. Sign up to my FREE 4Week Transformation Project, starting soon!

You deserve this- the world needs your dream. Pop the bubble of fear.

In love and fearlessness,

Katie   xx

Nov 082014


Sometimes, I was so determined to beat this terrible illness that all I did was think about it. I would think about it morning, noon and night (when I wasn’t sleeping, that is!)

I know you want to heal now, instantly, and one of the things that’s so difficult to accept with this whole thing is the longevity of it. When is it going to end? How will it end? Will I wake up one morning and suddenly feel instantly better? It used to drive me absolutely crazy.


Photo taken from here

All I ask of you today, is to take this minute, this hour or this day as a day of healing.

Ask yourself, what do I need today to make me feel better and begin to heal CFS? Even if I wake up tomorrow morning and I’m having a bad day, what I can do for myself today that’ll really make me happy and that I’ll remember tomorrow? What does my body need? What does my spirit need? What does your gut tell you? (Don’t ignore it!)

It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money or use up lots of your energy, but taking time out to find the little joys and pleasures in life and acting on these impulses can make the difference between a bad day and great day. Give all your energy to whatever little pleasure you have, and do not feel guilty about it for a second- you deserve this and you are really honouring yourself through it. Be present and enjoy. If you’re eating chocolate for example, think about the texture, colour and smell of it, as well as the taste. You’ll find your enjoyment rockets to a whole new level!

Here are a few suggestions:

If you honour and care for yourself regularly and every day, even in a small way, you will really start to see the benefits. This will set you up to form amazing healing habits for your recovery and beyond.

How would you find pleasure in this second, this minute, this hour or this day? Comment below!

Love and time-out,

Katie    xx

Nov 012014

As well as accepting my illness, for me, asking for and more importantly, receiving help from others was incredibly difficult. I realised very quickly that not only did I not know how to ask for help, I also didn’t know how to accept help from others. There are several members of my family who are not just a little bit stubborn, but almost infamous for it! I didn’t think I was one of those people until I became ill with CFS when it showed up in a major way.

As you’ve probably got to know by now if you’ve been following my blog, I pride myself on being independent and doing things my own way. I’ve always been a little bit quirky and don’t tend to follow the crowd (this isn’t a deliberate choice, it just seems to happen that way!). Having to drop out of Uni in your first year and move back in with your parents after a CFS diagnosis is one way in which the universe made sure that from then on, I would have to collaborate and eventually ask for help from other people. I learned recently however that once you learn to do this, and receive help fully and graciously, there is a sense of power and amazing collaboration which appears…

…and my god, does it feel good.

The key in the early stages of any illness is recognising the ways in which people try and help you (more on this here). When I first moved home, I thought my parents were nagging the life out of me and really didn’t understand me. In hindsight however, this was their way of caring for me and making sure that my illness didn’t completely take over what was supposed to be a prime time in my life. After their loving care and injections of positivity, I attended Uni a year later and managed to complete my four-year course with a year in France to boot. I honestly believe that if they hadn’t helped me in this particular way, I may not have been able to attend Uni at all. They knew I was independent and stubborn, so basically forced their help on me. I wasn’t very good at being grateful at the time, but now I hope they know how grateful I am to them and I hope I can repay this gratitude through my actions in years to come.

Asking for help from someone in itself, especially in our world today, is a great sign of strength and character. By asking for help, you are admitting that you are vulnerable and need assistance, and there is great beauty in vulnerability. I would say that when you ask for help, 99% of the time the other person is grateful to be of service and to assist in whatever it is you are going through, be it asking when your bus is due, asking a neighbour to mind your cat for the weekend or asking for advice with a difficult personal problem. I take it as a compliment when people ask me for directions in the street- I must appear to be kind and approachable. I can’t always help them, but I am incredibly grateful to be asked.


Picture of Brené Brown at TED taken from here

Receiving help is an art-form in itself, and one which I think the world needs more of. There is a quiet power in receiving help. We are one, we are all connected, so receiving help not only benefits you in the short term, but it creates a ripple effect. Your friend then asks someone else for help, then they ask their neighbour, and it continues. Decide whether you need help or whether you can truly and honestly take the responsibility on your own. As soon as you decide to ask for help, the butterflies in your stomach will tell you that you are moving out of your comfort zone and into this ripple effect, enabling you to receive graciously.

I feel strong and vulnerable when I ask for help, as it was a foreign concept to me for quite a while. Babies and children never fail to ask for help and receive it with love, and we should learn from them as adults. We grow and stand a little bit taller every time we do, the world appears brighter and people smile that little bit more often.

What do you need help with today? Ask with love and feel that little bit more grounded when you receive their assistant. We are one big community, full of ripples, and it feel gorgeous.

(For a little bit more on the concept of vulnerability, please sit back and watch this amazing TED talk by academic, speaker and writer, Brené Brown. I absolutely love this video and think being vulnerable is a humbling and inspirational attitude to have)

Love and vulnerability,

Katie   xx

Oct 102014


Quinoa- you’re either completely devoted to it or have no idea what all the fuss is about. Once you’ve figured out how to pronounce the bloomin’ thing (apparently it’s ‘keen-wah’), the next thing you need to sort out is how to use it.


Image taken from The Holistic Ingredient

Now, fret ye not. This beautiful and versatile grain is worth persevering with and does indeed live up to the hype as an amazing source of protein, full of essential amino acids, including folic acid and a good source of magnesium. It’s also gluten-free- what’s not to love?! I remember getting a bit of a shock when I went to see a naturopath a few years ago to see if there was anything  else I could do to optimise my diet. We discovered that there was very little protein in my diet- not great! Being a vegan, I had been prioritising iron and vitamins over protein, so quinoa was a great remedy!

Although incorporating quinoa into salads and meals at lunch and dinner is unbeatable, I find that eating quinoa for breakfast really sets me up for the day and keeps the 11am stomach grumbles at bay (oooh, that rhymes!) When my sleep cycle was at its worst, I used to skip breakfast completely and my first meal of the day would often be breakfast, lunch and early dinner combined! I have a fast metabolism, so I’m definitely not one of those people who can’t skip breakfast or just get by on a piece of toast.

Quinoa is such a great food, and it’s incredibly versatile. If you cook a batch of quinoa, you can then leave it in the fridge to have cold in a salad or to heat up again (thoroughly). The batch should be good for around 2-3 days.


Image taken from here

So, read on for some ideas as to how to get your day started with quinoa:

1)   Quinoa Porridge

Cook your quinoa in water, your favourite nut milk or, for an extra special treat, coconut milk (mmmm!) for a beautiful breakfast that’ll really get your day started on the right foot.  Adding a sliver of coconut oil into the pot while it’s cooking can also be great way to incorporate it into your meal.

Top with maca powder or goji berries, mix with raw honey or nut butter, add a sprinkle of raw cacao and some fruit- whatever takes your fancy!

2)   Quinoa Pancakes

Add cooked quinoa into your pancake mix together with your usual ingredients. Better still, use quinoa flakes or only use quinoa flour in the recipe to give your pancakes a bit of a nutritional boost- add some LSA or almond meal if you like as well. You can also make bread with quinoa flour and eat with your favourite nut butter. Perfect for a lazy weekend brunch!

3)   Quinoa Smoothies

Errrm, what now?! Yep, go for it! It’s all going into the blender anyway and will make you want to polish your nutritional halo because you’ve been so good to yourself. Put about half a cup-full into a smoothie for each person and off you go! (Perfect for those wanting a bit of a protein hit as well)

4)   Quinoa Egg scramble

Again, a bit of a hit with my other half for a hearty weekend brunch, while your quinoa is cooking, lightly scramble some eggs and tear/chop up some strips of kale. Combine altogether with some flaxseed oil and a bit of turmeric and top with almonds and coconut flakes. Fabulous!

5)   Quinoa Muesli or Cereal

After having grumbled for so long about not being able to find the perfect muesli in health food shops, I decided to make my own. I know exactly what’s going in it and it means I don’t have to pick out all the sultanas that people seem to be so fond of putting in muesli (not the biggest fan!)

A great alternative to dried oats, quinoa puffs (available in big bags at most health food shops) are a great alternative to quinoa is you fancy mixing it up a bit, as are quinoa flakes. Go crazy and choose your custom-made breakfast muesli! Sunflower seeds, flaxseed, inca berries, raw cacao nibs, dehydrated fruit- the sky’s the limit!

So there we have it- my mouth’s watering already! I’d love to hear how you use quinoa for breakfast or if you’re still to try it- all hail the most important meal of the day!

Love and quinoa,

Katie     xxx


Sep 152014

I just wanted to share with you something that I believe has really improved my CFS. I know that meditation sometimes get a bit of hippy/’only for gurus’ reputation, but it has really helped me in coping with the illness. Meditation and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome are perfect for each other.


Taken from here

The main way it has helped is in just getting myself out of my mind (“My god, I’m so tired, I can’t believe I’m still like this, everything hurts, I’m sick of being in bed, why me?, that light is killing me…”) and tuning into something else for a while. You’re probably sick of listening to messages from your body, all the pain and stiffness, but in meditation, you really listen to your body and get some sense of what’s going on. I often found in meditating that my body was telling me to ease up and stop being so hard on myself. Sometimes I think we spend so long thinking about our symptoms that our thoughts become unending. We end up tying ourselves in knots and we get used to this constant chatter. But sometimes, it’s good to step away from that and just take a bit of breather.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have days when I forget to do it, even though I know doing it morning and evening really helps. At the moment, if I can squeeze 15 minutes into the day, I’m happy, but ideally I would spend a bit longer. The good news is you don’t have to sit there for hours upon end waiting to be enlightened. Start off with 1 minute- 1 minute! We’ve all got a minute, haven’t we?!

This is one the best videos I’ve seen. It’s quirky, effective and best of all, calming your mind can be achieved in a minute. There’s even a timer included in the video, so you know when the time is up.

Just give it a go- what’s the harm? Meditating is like a muscle- you have to keep using it to get the benefit from it. Start with 1 minute and once you’re comfortable, maybe add another minute on top. Within days you’ll feel the benefit, I promise! Little things won’t bother you and your sleep might even improve.

I’ll be posting more on meditation soon, but in the mean time, enjoy!

Love and bliss,


Recommended Meditations:

AcuEnergetics® Enlighten Meditation Series (CD 1 is particularly juicy, but they’re all ridiculous!)


* Leonie Dawson’s ridiculously scrumptious meditations- they’re unbelievable. You have been warned!

Chakra Healing Meditation

Divine Dreaming Meditation

Holy Dinger Uber Deep Meditation

Releasing Fears Meditation


Doreen Virtue’s Chakra Clearing Meditation- pure bliss!

Jun 172013

I am jumping up and down excited today to bring you this amazing, amazing interview. I’ve been keeping this one under wraps for a while, but it’s finally time to share it with you.

Hayley Carr is a 9 x World Champion Martial Artist, Life, Health and Confidence Expert, who is passionate about helping people get the best out of themselves, and genuinely enjoy their life. Through her Live Peak Performance Workshops, Personal Coaching and Online TV show, she delivers world-class information to help people all around the world gain confidence, clarity and control, in a way that is unique, fun, and life-changing.

…and the best part? Hayley has fully recovery from CFS and kicked it right between the eyes. Retaining World Champion Martial Arts titles after CFS? Done. Living life fearlessly and seeing life as an ever-expanding journey? Done. Going after what she wants and not being afraid to get there? Done. Inspiring others to be the best they can possibly be? Done?

When Hayley sent this interview through to me, I had to read it through about six times- it’s so incredibly insightful and packed full of inspiration. It knocked the wind right out of me. Whether or not you have CFS, please share this with your nearest and dearest- you will definitely learn something new about yourself illness and your life in the words that follow. Hayley proves that when it comes to your health and your life, you are in the driving seat. Let me know what you take away from this- I’d love to hear from you.

Without much further ado, ladies and gentlemen, may I present the  beautiful fire-cracker that is Miss Hayley Carr.

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“You are here for a reason. This period of your life is temporary, and the lessons you get from learning how to heal yourself will serve you for the rest of your life. That is worth fighting for.” – Hayley Carr

Guest Interview with Hayley Carr

1) Describe yourself in three words.

Adventurous, Grateful, self-fulfilling. =)


2)  What inspired you to create your website and business?

After suffering Chronic fatigue for so long, (or what felt like so long, when I thought I just had a flu and would be out for only a week!) and learning so many lessons that healed me along the way, I was so grateful to be able to use my body and function again.

I saw so many people who wanted help to do the same thing, and felt compelled to help them, but even more, I saw so many people who had no idea that their life was just… “bleh”… for lack of a better word. They weren’t enjoying themselves, weren’t necessarily doing anything about changing it, and had no idea that they could. They thought it was just how life was – mediocre. This made me really fired up!

During my time having Chronic Fatigue, I studied a modality called NLP. (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), which changed my entire view on life, and how our unconscious thought patterns affect the outcome of our lives. It totally blew me away and I can’t NOT share the information now, if you know what I mean!


3)  I know that you too suffered from CFS for 2 years. How did you feel during that time? What was going in on your life before you became ill?

Chronic fatigue was such an interesting experience. In fact, you might think I’m crazy, but looking back now, it was the best experience of my life. It taught me so much about myself that I’ll never forget because it was so significant, and so intense.

Before I became ill, I was burning a candle that had many ends, at all ends. =)

It took 5 years of “signs” from my body before it finally went, “OK Hayles, you’re not listening, ***shut down mode!”

At the time I got sick, I had just quit my part-time job in an Architecture studio where I worked full-time hours, I was studying full-time at university, which required an all-nighter once a week to complete the work that was required, and I was training for World Karate Titles every night until roughly 2 or 3am. On the weekends, I was partying hard with my friends because I was so fearful of “missing out” and I felt like it was the only way I could relax, and in-between I survived off coffee and the odd sandwich or steak when time allowed. My life was a clusterf*ck of social events, and aspiring to accomplish things, which spiralled me further downward until my body said, “no more, babe!”.

During the time I was ill, I had no idea why. My life was like I said above, not great, but I had no idea how to change it or even if I could. I thought this was just how it was going to have to be if I was going to get to do everything I wanted. I felt Horrible! Like I was stuck in a drugged-out state and could not see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I was quite angry and depressed because of this too. All the doctors I saw, except one, told me that basically, I was going to have to get used to life being a little crappy. I’d never really be able to work properly again, or make money, or train karate, or really do anything like a normal person… geeeez imagine if I had listened!


4)  What was the thing that really accelerated your healing? (Any juicy tips?!)

It definitely wasn’t just one thing, but using everything in combination was the key. Without writing you an essay here, I’d say my top 5 are:

1. Self-love.

Cultivating the act of deeply accepting yourself, right in this moment – warts and all. Treat your body like a vehicle, and your mind that hates your body, like the challenger to be “shooshed!”. The only way to make changes is by first accepting the situation and finding peace and gratitude within it.

 2. Finding a supportive environment.

Find your tribe. Again, this can be done in combination with all the other steps, but once you find your peeps, you have more energy. They support you, uplift you, hold you accountable, and will catch you when you fall too. Sometimes this means doing a total friend-detox!

3. Listening to your intuition and your body.

Your body knows the answer to all of your big questions long before your brain does. This is why we get sick. This is why we get skin issues, or headaches. Your body is telling you something, and if you listen, you can respond and make the “problem” go away. Same with your intuition. It doesn’t always make sense though, and that’s OK.

Recognise the difference between what you need and what you want, and Do what your body is asking you to do. This is what you need. For example, sometimes, what you want is to go out and see your friends, but what you need is to chill out and enjoy your own company, relaxing for the night. Other times, what you want is to stay home and hide under the blankets and be cranky, but what you need, is to go out and be social. When you understand when your body is telling you what you need to do, you don’t need to think any more =)

4. Back Yourself.

Set goals and protect them like they are your little babies and you’re a mumma bear! If someone is saying things that don’t quite match up with where you want to go, you don’t have to listen. I give you permission right now to tell them to “shove it” if you need to. That sounds harsh, I know, but on this journey of healing, remember, only YOU know your body, NOBODY else. Everyone is different. What works for some, won’t work for all. It gets me so fired up that doctors tell people that there is no cure to this mystery illness, when clearly there is. Follow your gut. This is the same with your goals, too.

5. Never ever ever EVER give up.

I remember in the very early days of my being sick, my Chiropractor said to me, “Hayley, when this is over, you will look back and see it as the best experience of your life, for what it will teach you”… I thought she was nuts.

She was right.

You are here for a reason. This period of your life is temporary, and the lessons you get from learning how to heal yourself will serve you for the rest of your life. That is worth fighting for.


5)  You’ve also won 9 Karate World Titles (Yep, you read right my lovelies! Wow!) – how in the world did you get to that stage from CFS?!

I have competed in world competitions every 2 years since I was 14, sometimes multiple divisions and multiple tournaments, so it was only the 9th that was after my CFS.

To be honest, I feel better than I ever have since I healed my body, so I came back stronger than I had ever been. I had to deal with the blow to my ego of not being able to compete in one of the world tournaments early on when dealing with my illness, and I was still very sick 6 months before the last one I competed in.

At first, I could only do 5 minutes of the 2 hour class. I’d then sit down and go to sleep up the back. So I started amping up everything I was doing to get well. For example, I was having 2 teaspoons of greens, I started having 2 teaspoons, 5 times per day. Absolutely smashing my body with nutrients. I meditated twice daily, went for walks outside even when I was tired just to clear my head, I started having colonics, and I only put the best nutrients I could afford into my body. I got really strict, but it’s important that you know it wasn’t from a place of fear, it was because I believed I deserved to get well.

It was more of a mental challenge though. I had a really hard time dealing with being hit in the face when I came back to training. For some reason, whenever anyone came near my face I’d break down into uncontrollable sobbing – it was so embarrassing! – but I had to learn to be extremely patient with myself, and accept that this was where I was. My ego was going wild, comparing me to everyone else I was training with, and how good they were getting, and how “crap” I was compared to when I stopped training… that doesn’t help.

I made getting better my sole purpose. I made bargains with the universe, and every day I asked myself, “where can I get energy from?”, as opposed to my previous mantra, “why am I so darn tired? When is this going to end?”. It was commitment and a sacrifice, and I told myself I’d be grateful just to be able to compete again, and I think it was coming from this place of non-resistance that I was able to heal much faster.

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6)  How do you make sure you recover from intense physical exercise?

The best advice I have ever been given around recovery, is that “no is a full sentence”.

In the past during times of intense physical training in preparation for a tournament, I’d still do everything I’d normally do, and then some. I’d still go out drinking and partying just as much as before, still agree to late nights and early mornings, all the social events, and despite being exhausted, I thought it was better to sacrifice my body to do all these things and not miss out on “having a life”.

But the life I was living was not the life I really wanted to live, it was more of circumstance, and what I thought I “should” be doing.

Nowadays, I don’t feel like I am ever missing out. When you come from a place of self-love, and acceptance of where you are in your journey, in your training and otherwise, rather than a fear of not being good enough, you can easily say no to things that don’t align with you and your goals.

The best recovery is rest when you need it. Above all else. It’s OK to say no, and you never have to justify why.


7)  Do you ever think about your past history of CFS? How do you focus on the present and the future?

By asking myself every day these 3 questions,

  1. Where can I get more energy from right now? (sometimes, the answer is rest, sometimes, the answer is to go out and move your body.). This keeps me in the moment,
  2. What’s next for me in my life? (This helps me cultivate a positive visualisation of the future)
  3. What is the next logical step to get there? (This helps me take action)
  4. And for one bonus, what am I grateful for right now? (This helps you see the beauty in all that has passed.)

 (Seriously, how amazing is this lady?! Wow! – Katie    xx)

8)  What are your non-negotiables when it comes to your health?

Affirming my boundaries, and having ‘me-time’.

In my work, I get to help people all day, and I absolutely love it. I see a lot of people doing work like me however, and not enjoying it, because they feel like they have to hustle hard and sell their soul for cash. For my health, and for yours, I can’t run my business when it runs me, and I am not asserting my boundaries as to when and how I will work.

It’s the same with sleep. My boyfriend used to need far less sleep than me, and would go to bed really late at night. I used to go to bed when he did, so I could hang out with him, and, (again) not miss out. Sometimes that meant that I would only get 5 or 6 hours per night, which made me consistently exhausted.

When I am feeling energetic and alive, everyone benefits.

Me-time is the second non-negotiable. When I have some time to myself every day, I feel grounded, and sane again. I really notice when I haven’t had it for a while, so now, it’s a non-negotiable. Sometimes that means it has to be 5 minutes of meditation on the loo, other times its a few hours laying on the grass in a park, or writing at a cafe.

If you know what your non-negotiables are, you know the key to living the good life. The next step is to actually make sure you include them in your day!


9)  How has fear appeared in your life and what do you do when it does?

Oh yeaaaah I love this question.

I used to be afraid of fear. Literally. It wasn’t the fear itself that was a problem, as much as the fact that I was afraid. (An ego thing, I guess!)

I used to avoid being afraid of things, because it really annoyed me when I couldn’t do something.

Now, I love when I experience fear. Not the creepy guy down the dark alleyway kinda fear, I mean the fear that makes you feel like you’d be the biggest legend on earth if you could overcome it.

I believe the things we fear are our unique, individual challenges that we are born to overcome. Why else would we all be afraid of different things?

Once we overcome these fears, we realise there was nothing to be afraid of in the first place, perhaps it was even a matter of being focused on the wrong thing!

I have spent the last 5 years busting my own fears, and helping others bust theirs, and I can honestly say from experience, that every time you bust through a fear, you have exactly the same experience in your body. The first time you do it, it’s hard. Every time after that, you can see the pattern repeating itself, and although the fear doesn’t always subside by simply observing it, it becomes a lot less significant, and more part of a system.

When you recognise where you are in the system, it’s exciting because you know where you’re going!

10)  What do you do or say to yourself if you’re having an ‘off’ day?

I have worked really hard to re-frame how I think about “off-days” now. Here’s how I see it:

I don’t have “off” days any more. I used to say I was “having an off day” all the time, and honestly, some days you do feel like sh*t, and everything goes wrong, but when you cultivate a positive mindset that everything is going to be OK, and it’s just working out with a different outcome to how you planned, you realise there is no such thing as an “off” day. It’s just that you have forgotten it’s all fine, and you’re here right now.

One of the elements for change in the unconscious mind is the conversation we have with ourselves. When people used to ask me how I was, I’d say, “Yeah, I’m OK, I’m really tired, I’ve been sick, I have Chronic Fatigue… etc”. One day I started answering that question by saying, “I’m getting better every day” and it became very much like an affirmation to me. My Mantra. As soon as I heard the words come out of my mouth, even if I was feeling really tired, It felt better.

So, in answer to your question, on days where I feel like the proverbial has hit the fan, I take a deep breath, and have a little pep-talk with myself. “It’s all good Hayley, you’re OK. You’re safe”, and then I go back and ask myself the 4 questions from above.


11)  What projects are you working on at the moment?

At the moment, I have a number of projects going. I’m playing solo-traveller and experiencing working with location-independence, which is a dream come true! Right now, as I’m typing, I’m in Havana, in Cuba, and tomorrow, I’m headed to Mexico, where I’ll be finishing my new website.

In July this year I will be running a live workshop in Peak Performance in Sydney, where I teach people everything they need to start living as the biggest expression of themselves, and bust through fears. Afterwards, I will be focusing on turning this into an online, video-based training so the information can be accessed by more people in more places.


12)  Any other words of support and encouragement to share with my readers.

You are amazing. Stay focused on what you want, and never let anything get in the way. You can be as unrealistic as you like, as long as you are willing to give yourself the time, and the love to achieve it. You are supported, and you are safe to take care of yourself. I’m sending you all my love and support… =)


Hayley’s Website  //  Facebook  //  Twitter  //  YouTube

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May 142013


Hay House World Summit

I’m so, so excited to introduce this amazing *FREE* online programme to you courtesy of the fantastic,  well-renowned publisher of life-changing books, Hay House.

Hay House and its authors have formed a huge part of my healing- in fact I’d say they were the ones who expanded my mind and kick-started my healing journey. I realised after reading many of these books that healing was in my hands and that it had been mine all along. Reading these books, following these authors and doing the work got me to where I am today, and I’m so excited to help you start healing CFS with these amazing authors.

The Hay House World Summit, which is delivered completely online and is COMPLETELY FREE OF CHARGE (woohoo!), starts on June 1st and features many of my favourite authors:

  • Louise Hay (Louise wrote the first spiritual book I ever read, ‘You Can Heal Your Life’)
  • Dr. Wayne Dyer
  • Caroline Myss
  • Doreen Virtue
  • Marianne Williamson
  • Deepak Chopra
  • Esther Hicks (Abraham Hicks)
  • Anita Moorjani
  • Cheryl Richardson
  • Jack Canfield
  • Kris Carr
  • Christiane Northrup, M.D
  • Don Miguel Ruiz
  • Lissa Rankin, M.D
  • Mastin Kipp
  • Robert Holden
  • Suze Orman
  • Bruce Lipton
  • Iyanla Vanzant (will definitely be tuning in for this one- this lady is on fire!)
  • Gabrielle Bernstein
  • Sonia Choquette
  • Neale Donald Walsch

…and many more (yep, I’ve a read A LOT of books- don’t say I didn’t warn you!)

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All you have to do to register is click on one of the banners on this page and type in your email address- it’s that simple! You’ll be given direct access to 6 exclusive pre-summit online videos. If you’ve never come across these authors or have never picked up a ‘self-help’ or spiritual book, these videos are great introductions.

I’ll be commenting on the findings of the talks as we go through the programme, but I really, really hope for your health and bright, shiny future that you’ll join me in watching, listening and learning from these amazing speakers from June 1st.

It’s completely free and I know you’re going to learn something…it might even change your life (like it did mine!)!

Love and Hay House healing,

Katie   xx

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May 132013


Woohoo! I’m so, so pleased to welcome another beautiful, inspirational special guest to the blog this week. This lady is beautiful, passionate and believe that everyone can have the health and vitality they want and deserve. I was slightly flabbergasted when I finished reading this interview- these words are so heartfelt and revolutionary, I was speechless!

Welcome to Conquering Fear Spiritually, Claire Obeid from The Wellness Project!


Claire is a Holistic Health Coach and Yoga Teacher. I know some of you are absolutely dying to know about CFS, nutrition and exercise, so in this interview, Claire answers all your questions on this and more. I absolutely love Claire’s evident passion for wellness- you can feel it running out of every word she writes. I don’t really want to to much more, as this interview’s so, so good and I want to pass you straight over to Claire and her amazing words of wisdom. (The phrase ‘Wise beyond her years’ springs to mind!)

Thank you so much to Claire for taking the time to answer some questions for us and for giving such comprehensive answers.

Enjoy my lovelies!

Katie     xxx


1)    What was the inspiration behind your wellness journey?

It wasn’t so much an inspiration rather an epiphany that whacked me over the head.

In my late teens/early 20s you could say I lead a pretty destructive lifestyle. Around 22 I’d started to have an inkling that something wasn’t quite right. I was choosing to stay in and read, instead of party. ‘Quiet and Slow’ had become my new way of living.

Not long after my first Iyengar yoga class literally cracked me wide open. I spent the class with hot, wet tears rolling down my face as I dealt with physical pain and emotional release. It was in this moment that I realized something had to give.. IBS, adrenal fatigue, OCD, anxiety – they’d all found a home in me. I knew then in that yoga class I had to make a change

From there, every spare moment and spare dollar went towards yoga. I was googling yoga sequences at work and researching retreats.

At each step I started to feel more open, lighter, aware… happy, if I dare say.

Yoga then led me to review how I was feeding my body. I started to experience stillness in mind and a stronger body but I was still grappling with health issues. The more I played with and tweaked my diet the stronger and more balanced I felt.

Today, I am STILL on my wellness journey, or in the midst of my wellness project, as I like to see it. I am forever a student of wellness. Experiencing life, reviewing it, driving forward, sitting with it, opening up, embracing challenges, finding new ways, refining and retuning. It’s ongoing, and I love it that way. Wellness is a journey into yourself – to your true essence – and I adore feeling connected in that way.


2)    What are your non-negotiables when it comes to your health

Firstly it’s what works for my body (or yours). Non-negotiables have to be tried and tested to know if they are right for you. My must-haves are good, clean, WHOLESOME food. If it’s not real, it’s not on. Lots of filtered water. Lots of good fats – I am all for fat and the traditional way of eating. Green veggies – as many as I can handle in one day!

Yoga, breathwork + meditation. Daily movement and quietening of the mind are by the far the most valuable part of my wellness regime.


3)    How has fear appeared in your life and what do you do when it does?

We all have limiting beliefs ingrained in us from such a young age. I still have fears and insecurities, the difference is I SEE them for what they are now. I am aware when they crop up, I know they aren’t the ‘real’ me – but an ego-based reflection. Fear creeps into my life when I’m not trusting the universe and myself. I might start to question my place in the world and what I’m here for. Or I might start comparing myself to others.

First, I let myself feel the fear and then I move forward.

I used to fight it – a lot – and I was left with an ectopic heartbeat and a serious case of anxiety and OCD

I find that I need to move towards fear. Shake its hand, say hello, sit down with and say ‘so… what’s up?’. I acknowledge it and then, thankfully, it starts to dissipate, it becomes watered down and almost ‘silly’. When I ignore it and turn my back to it, it grows bigger and bolder and manifest into almost every part of my life. This takes repetition, practice, willingness

If I’m feeling truly overwhelmed and I need to reign it in it’s here that I usually practice EFT (check out my video on what this is and how to do it! http://thewellnessproject.net.au/2013/04/30/why-you-should-try-tapping-for-health/) or meditation.

Yoga gets me out of my head and drops me back into my heart and my body. Getting outside – sunshine, nature, earth beneath my feet – this reconnects me to something bigger and greater than my fears. And journaling – I’ve always been a writer, so the written word is very therapeutic to me. It’s cleansing to brain-dump.


4)    What do you do or say to yourself if you’re having and off’ day?

I let myself have an off-day. I be OK with it. I say “Claire, it’s cool – you are human and you are having an OFF day “I then look into my heart, drop the story around my ‘off day’ and try and tune into what I need.
Drop my tools and leave work alone for a day? Yoga? A walk? A big green smoothie. Cry into a pillow? Laugh with friends. Dance?

I let it unfold.


5)    You produce and publish some amazing, fresh and health recipes on your blog. What foods should we be incorporating into our diet to encourage healing and sustain our energy?

Thank you!

Keep it real. That’s my rule. Keep it simple and fresh. Have a predominantly plant based diet.

  • Lots of Dark green leafy veggies. Lots of veggies full stop. They should be your best friend.
  • If you eat meat – grass fed and pastured produce only. Be mindful of the source.
  • Eggs are an amazing source of protein – I eat at least 6 a week.
  • LOTS of good fat, especially if you’re a woman – fatty fish, coconut oil, real butter, avocados, nuts.
  • Hydrate – don’t go mental, but at least 1.5 litres per day
  • Reduce the sugar – even fruit. Preferably live a sugar-free life.
  • Good sources of grains – brown rice is so incredibly healing but make sure its biodynamic and local
  • Superfoods are fantastic as supplements but if you are low in cash don’t fret, real food is just as good, if not better. Superfoods are ‘add-ons’ they should be your bulk
  • Probiotic foods – yoghurt and kefir are always in my fridge. If you are lactose intolerant go for coconut or goats/sheep’s milk based options

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6)    You’re a yoga teacher as well as being an inspirational health coach- is there a place for yoga as part of a healing process? Do you have any gentle yoga postures that people with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome can adopt? 

There is such a HUGE place for yoga in healing. I started my healing process because of yoga. In fact, I’ve decided to incorporate more yoga into my Holistic Health Coaching practice.

I have had clients suffering from Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia and all have incorporated yoga into their daily routine.

The key with Chronic Fatigue sufferers is to adopt a gentle ‘slowly-slowly’ approach. Yoga is such a special practice because it can be harnessed for the individual and their needs. It’s not a one-size-fits-all.

Balancing yogic breathing techniques are invaluable as are gentle.

Supported forward bends like pachimottanasana (seated) and uttanasana (standing) balance and calm the nervous system.

A supported downward facing dog (using blocks and bolsters) is key to increase blood flow, frees tension in the upper back and gently builds energy and reclining restorative postures like Supta Buddha Konasana (bound angle pose) over bolsters increases flow and circulation to the adrenals, thyroid and kidneys which store a lot of energy.


7)    Describe yourself in three words.

Authentic. Passionate. Positive.

And a few more for good measure: Intuitive, present, loving, open and honest!

It’s hard in only three!

(I love this- Claire walks her talk alright!) 


8)    What projects are you working on at the moment? 

Oooh – so many! I’m working on my first ever eBook. It’s all about learning how to surrender and let go of all the ‘stuff’ that holds us back or the situations we can’t control so that we can literally STEP into the life we want. I think Chronic Fatigue Sufferers would have a lot of experience in the challenge of surrender.

My own journey is peppered with countless challenges in surrender. All of which I am so grateful for, because I feel better equipped to help myself and help others embrace the art of letting go.

I’m also planning a new online offering based around yoga and wellness which I CANNOT wait to get off the ground.

On a smaller scale I’m going deeper into my video blogs and will be posting up little yoga how-tos and sequences to share this amazing practice.


9)    Any other words of support and encouragement to share with my readers.

You a spiritual being enjoying a human existence. Embrace your story as a human being to an extent. Our body and how it functions is so important to how we exist day-to-day. But also willingly unattach a little from the body. You are more than just your body and it’s ailments. It’s important to not identify too much with the physical realm… even though it’s what binds you to this earth. You have layer upon layer – from the physical, material, spiritual, emotional, mental and energetic. You can lead the most fulfilling life WITH what you have. You can take what you have and make it better! You can make changes that nurture and support you, you can embrace the beauty of acceptance and you can also love the life you are in – with all its flaws.

Health and wellness is individual – it’s totally unique for each person… the recipe is different. This is exciting news because you get to own your wellness – branded under your name. Embrace it, wear it with pride and make it truly special. When you are ready to grow and evolve it’ll still carry your unique stamp and it’ll give you exactly what you need, when you need it. All you have to do is want more for yourself because you truly believe that it’s your birth right to live a balanced, happy and healthy life in mind, body and spirit!

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Connect with Claire

Website  //  Blog  //  Facebook  //  Twitter 



May 012013


I’m so, so excited to share with you my first in a series of regular guest interviews with lovely ladies and gents who inspire me on a daily basis. They live from their heart, they move through fear graciously and live healthy, happy, abundant and beautiful lives.

I can’t think of anyone better to start this series than the lovely Jen from Wild Sister and the inspirational Wild Sisterhood.community. One look at Jen’s amazing website, and you know immediately what she stands for- outrageous creativity, sisterhood, solidarity, vibrant colour and dreaming wildly.


This is what I love about Jen. Her monthly online magazine, Wild Sister, is packed full of uplifting spiritual, real-world advice to help you live beyond your wildest dreams. If you’re looking at kick-starting you CFS healing journey, trust me, learning from Jen and Wild Sister is definitely the way to go! The first time I sat down with a copy on my iPad, I think I got through 4 cups of herbal tea- I couldn’t stop reading and thinking about what these words meant for me.

Please visit Jen’s amazing website and follow her on social media (links are underneath the interview below). The latest edition of Wild Sister is on the Law of Attraction. Make sure you’ve got a good bit of time to read and enjoy it- lots of ‘a-ha’ moment for me! You can also download a free Wild Sister Sampler from the website- it’s beautiful!

Most of all, thank you so much to beautiful Jen for letting me interview her- I know her words will resonate with you just as much as this did with me.

Enjoy my darlings!

Love and wild dreaming,

Katie  xx



1. Describe yourself in three words.

Colourful. Inspired. Free.


2. What was the inspiration behind ‘Wild Sister’ magazine?

I’ve always been an advocate for positivity, and I grew tired of media that always made women feel bad about who they are.

I wanted to create something that would inspire women and help them to feel beautiful, loved, worthy and empowered.

Basically, I wanted to read a magazine that made me feel good, so I made one.


3. What would you say to anyone who hasn’t read ‘Wild Sister’ magazine?

What are you waiting for?! Haha!

In all seriousness, I know it might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but if you’re a woman who craves inspiration, empowerment and a sisterhood of women just like you, Wild Sister is for you.


4. What does sisterhood mean to you?

Connection, as in souls connecting deeply with one another. It’s femininity + strength + vulnerability + raw truth. It’s knowing you can be completely yourself with your soul sisters, without the fear of judgement.


5. What are your non-negotiables when it comes to your life?

Positivity. Choosing happiness. Love. Freedom. And oh-so-much-laughter.


6. How has fear appeared in your life and what do you do when it does?

Fear has appeared in my life a lot. I used to let it control every part of my life, if I was afraid of it, I wouldn’t do it. I thought I needed to wait until the fear went away first.

Now, I still feel fear. But instead of letting it block my path like a brick wall, I walk right through it. I don’t try to resist it or get rid of it, I move forward with it. And the more I keep doing that, the less control fear has over my life.


7. What do you do or say to yourself if you’re having an ‘off’ day?

I look for the lesson.

No matter what it is, whether mulling over a mistake I made or obsessing over something that annoys me, I get out of my head and into the moment.

Then I reframe it and look for ways I can learn from that experience. I always find a lesson in off days, even if all it is is to be more patient with myself. I’m always learning.

Most importantly, I always remind myself that I can do better tomorrow. I never beat myself up, I remember that I’m always doing the best I can with what I have at the time. That’s enough.


8. What projects are you working on at the moment?

I’ve got a few on my to-do list but the first one is an e-course that will guide women through the process of creating their own e-magazine in 30 days. I’m super excited about it!


9. Do you have any other words of support and encouragement to share with my readers?

Remember to always smile at yourself in the mirror :)


Follow Jen and dream your big life!

Website  //  Wild Sister Magazine  //  Facebook  //  Twitter






Apr 092013

Hi everyone! This is just a short post to mark the historic arrival of two important milestones in Conquering Fear Spiritually’s history! Yahoo!

Firstly, you’ll probably notice if you’ve made it this far(!) that the website has been changed a little bit to make it more readable and it therefore allows me to help you through those rocky patches and beautiful patches. I really hope you enjoy the new look and the new website! Yehoooo!

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Secondly, (*big gulp!*), I finally got around to something I’ve been thinking about for a while- putting up a video blog. I know that lots of people out there can’t read for long periods of time, especially on computer screens and many people just prefer listening to things, so I thought I’d have a go! Please let me know if this is something you’d be interested in watching more of in the future- I’ll try and keep them short, I promise!

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Enjoy my darlings- have a beautiful day!

Love and vlogs, Katie    xx

Mar 272013

I don’t know about you, but I never felt there was a day- a single day – during being ill in bed where I relaxed completely, where I felt myself say, “Stuff it, I’m going to enjoy this”. How are you supposed to enjoy it? It’s never-ending, you’re in pain and nothing really seems to be getting any better.

Remember those days off you had when you’d have a bad cold or the flu, even when you were younger? The day was completely devoted to YOU and what you and your body needed to get its strength up again. You felt snotty and disgusting, but you were curled up, watching your favourite DVD, drinking hot tea or soup and even in your sucky state, a bit of you relaxes, because you know that that’s the only thing you can do right now.

Why can’t we be as kind to ourselves with CFS? I couldn’t- I was terrible at it. I used to try and do jobs around the house or try and tidy things up, so I felt as if I was ‘doing’ something. I’d read only to feel like I was having ‘too much fun’, then would feel guilty about it. Ultimately, what happened? You guessed it- I woke up the next morning feeling worse than the previous morning. My muscles ached and my throat was sore, but more importantly, I was mentally exhausted. I felt emotionally drained and not fit for action at all.

My emotions were affecting everything and slowing down my recovery. Why do we burden ourselves with guilt, shame, fear, disappointment and hopelessness when our body is in recovery mode and needs our emotional help? Who are we helping by doing this? Certainly not ourselves.

You owe it to yourself during your illness to relax and enjoy your recovery time. It’s not selfish to take time out and focus on yourself. You can only fully help others when you help yourself. Don’t fight it- work with it, and your healing will be much quicker. You’ll even come to expect healing.

  • Run yourself a bath and stay in there until your fingers look like prunes.
  • Watch that movie that your partner can’t stand, but you think it’s the best thing you’ve ever seen.
  • Put some lipstick on, even though your hair’s a mess and you’re still in your PJs.
  • Drink your green juices and smoothies in a wine glass.
  • Meditate for 5 minutes.
  • Flick through your favourite trashy magazine.
  • Write a letter to yourself or a friend.
  • Play Beyonce as loud as it can go and work it.

It’s your day- even if you’re ill in bed, don’t waste it for second. Even if you only have half an hour to yourself before the kids come home, use it and love it. Be messy, be greedy, be joyful, be fabulous, be selfish. It’s your time- have fun with it. If you have a whole day, declare a Healing Day and pamper yourself guilt-free. If you have a week or a month, even better- you deserve it.

I’m heading away for the long Easter weekend with my fiancé and some friends to Byron Bay, an amazing place by the beach just south of Brisbane, Australia. I’ve already got massages and lovely things planned for when we get there, beautiful vegan food courtesy of the Conscious Cafe and music and laughter courtesy of the legendary Byron Bay Blues Festival. I’ve declared this to be 4 days of healing, laughter, sun and treating myself, which we all need from time to time…and I’m going to go for it!

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Can you dedicate some time to your healing today or this weekend without feeling guilt or shame? Can you declare this a month of healing? I’d love to know what you did and how you felt afterwards. I’ll share some pictures and an account of my 4 days away next week!

Have a beautiful long weekend everyone!

Love and me-time,

Katie     xxx